A Purpose-Driven Wife

December 31, 2015

A Purpose-Driven Wife

Proverbs 31:10-12 (AMP)

An excellent woman [one who is spiritual, capable, intelligent, and virtuous], who is he who can find her?  Her value is more precious than jewels and her worth is far above rubies or pearls.

The heart of her husband trusts in her [with secure confidence],

And he will have no lack of gain.

She comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil

All the days of her life.

Matthew Henry concise commentary

She is very careful to recommend herself to her husband's esteem and affection, to know his mind, and is willing that he rule over her. 1. She can be trusted, and he will leave such a wife to manage for him. He is happy in her. And she makes it her constant business to do him good. 2. She is one that takes pains in her duties, and takes pleasure in them. She is careful to fill up time, that none be lost. She rises early. She applies herself to the business proper for her, to women's business. She does what she does, with all her power, and trifles not.

Miyagi’s commentary

A virtuous wife completes her husband. She does not compete with him.  She willingly submits to him.  She knows his thoughts and what is important to him.  She takes great care of the affairs of the household.  She encourages him, comforts him, and she works tirelessly day after day to be his helpmate. She anticipates his needs.  She does all this with joy in her heart because she loves her husband.  And her husband has the blessed assurance that his wife will take care of all the details.  He has confidence in her and trusts her.  

She understands her position and gladly yields to it.  She does not control her husband, manipulate him nor belittle him.  She supports her husband because he is the head of household.  She makes the home a sanctuary for him, a place of rest, a place of peace.  A virtuous wife does not argue nor insist in her own ways.  She simply obeys her husband and carries out her duties daily.

This description of a virtuous wife is the way God had intended for a wife to be.  It is God’s ideal.  But in America today, it is almost non-existent, even in Christian homes.  With feminism in place, the Jezebel spirit continues to dominate and the woman becomes the driver in the marriage while the husband takes the backseat.  A woman’s place is to cover her husband’s back. She is the helpmeet.  If she has any agenda apart from that, she is out of order.  A woman who cannot submit to her husband fully...simply cannot and will not submit to Jesus.  

If God has called the man to be the head of household and the woman tries to take over, that household now contains a two-headed monster.  May God help us.

Miyagi